Why This Works...
Discover How I Was Able To Solve The Problems That Were Destroying My Marriage
There Is A Very Short Runway
And There Is No Time To Waste...
Chapter and Verse of Exactly How We Train, Mentor, Coach, and Support You from a place where she's barely (or not talking) to Suggesting You Renew Your Vows
Why This Works...
Discover How I Was Able To Solve The
Problems That Were Destroying My Marriage
There Is A Very Short Runway And There Is No Time To Waste...
Chapter and Verse of Exactly How We Train, Mentor, Coach, and Support You from a place where she's barely (or not talking) to Suggesting You Renew Your Vows
If You Combine This Proven Plan With Some Hard Work From Your Part, You Can Be Confident You Will Win Your Wife's Heart & Mind Back To You
If You Combine This Proven Plan With Some Hard Work
From Your Part, You Can Be Confident You Will
Win Your Wife's Heart & Mind Back To You
Learn how Nick won Kelly's heart and head back to the marriage, even after YEARS of Kelly's unhappiness and demands for a divorce -- and see how in eight short weeks how he was able to win her back and become the couple who fell in love 28 years ago all over again. Watch the same training Nick watched to get started!
Learn how Nick won Kelly's heart and head back to the marriage, even after YEARS of Kelly's unhappiness and demands for a divorce -- and see how in eight short weeks how he was able to win her back and become the couple who fell in love 28 years ago all over again. Watch the same training Nick watched to get started!
Learn how Abe was on the brink of divorce, and didn't even know it until he started this program, got his wife talking, and found out where her heart and mind were.Eight weeks in, Abe had turned it all around and his marriage remains strong, now, 5 years later.
Learn how Abe was on the brink of divorce, and didn't even know it until he started this program, got his wife talking, and found out where her heart and mind were.Eight weeks in, Abe had turned it all around and his marriage remains strong, now, 5 years later.
Learn how Dave won Tracy's heart and head back to the marriage, even after she had already moved out -- and see how that changed his life, her life, and the life of his children forever!
Learn how Dave won Tracy's heart and head back to the marriage, even after she had already moved out -- and see how that changed his life, her life, and the life of his children forever!
Learn how Mike undid years of marital damage from prioritizing his business over his marriage, and turned everything around in less than eight weeks. Watch the same training Mike watched to get started!
Learn how Mike undid years of marital damage from prioritizing his business over his marriage, and turned everything around in less than eight weeks. Watch the same training Mike watched to get started!
Learn how Abe was on the brink of divorce, and didn't even know it until he started this program, got his wife talking, and found out where her heart and mind were.Eight weeks in, Abe had turned it all around and his marriage remains strong, now, 5 years later.
Learn how Abe was on the brink of divorce, and didn't even know it until he started this program, got his wife talking, and found out where her heart and mind were.Eight weeks in, Abe had turned it all around and his marriage remains strong, now, 5 years later.
Determined to fix his relationship with his wife, John decided to go through a journey that CHANGED his life and took his marriage on a new path. For more than 20 years Janie felt unhappy, John overcame Janie only feeling safe when he was literally 1,000 miles away, and won her back happier than ever.
No One Can Do The Work For You...
Determined to fix his relationship with his wife, John decided to go through a journey that CHANGED his life and took his marriage on a new path. For more than 20 years Janie felt unhappy, John overcame Janie only feeling safe when he was literally 1,000 miles away, and won her back happier than ever.
No One Can Do The Work For You...
"I knew my marriage was in trouble, and I knew it was getting worse. And the sad thing is, every time I tried to make it better... i just ended up making it worse. And that's why I decided to reach out for professional help."
"Something about Bob's training spoke to me. I knew I was unhappy; and I knew that was causing my wife to feel unhappy. And as hard as it was to admit it, I knew I had not been stepping up as the man in my marriage. And that whole thing Bob said about Releasing Her Rage -- if I could do that, it would be a game changer!We got on the phone, and Bob talked to me like a loving father figure. I mean... he cared. And I was certain of that. He helped me to understand exactly what was happening in my marriage, and helped me chart what he called a path out of my pit and into paradise.
I think what convinced me to work with Bob was that from the beginning, Bob was most concerned with whether I was a fit for his program, and there wasn't any pressure to do anything. I was on the call to learn a strategy, and if that strategy was to work with somebody else, Bob promised to refer me. Wow!
I hoped I was a fit, because from the training it sounded exactly like what I needed. Well, by the end of the call we were both convinced I was a perfect fit, so I signed up and started doing the work. For the first couple of days I was worried that it wouldn't work... but by day 3 I saw definite changes, in me, my wife, and my marriage. And yes, we had some setbacks, but overall, each day started getting better. By six weeks in, we were lovers again, and 3 months after I started the program we renewed our wedding vows!
MY WIFE THANKS YOU, MY GIRLS THANK YOU, AND I THANK YOU! THANK GOD FOR YOU BOB GERACE!"
"No matter what I tried, she just stayed locked up in her bedroom, crying, and texting her emotional boyfriend. And I tried it all. Yelling. Crying. Begging. Negotiating. Threatening. Nothing worked. Thanks when I clicked on Bob's ad."
"Doing all that stuff and not getting any result ended up making me really angry. And that's when she told me, "I just can't live with such an angry man. And the sad thing is, I wasn't an angry man when we got married -- she MADE me the angry man I was... or so I thought when I jumped on my call with Bob.
"Inside 5 minutes of being on the phone with Bob, I knew he was for real. The questions he asked spoke right to the heart of the issues.
Bottom line: I was getting in my own way. I needed to figure myself out, and become the best version of ME possible. Then I could be stronger for HER.
When I got in Bob's program, I took to the training like a fish to water, and within a week everything had changed.
And it gets better every day. What I'm most grateful for is my two boys. I wanted them to see a great role model for how a man treats his wife, and to grow up to become strong, God loving men. Now, thanks to Bob's program, I get to make sure both of those things happen.
Bob, I can't thank you enough! You changed my life!"
"From the outside looking in, I had the perfect life. A beautiful wife, a luxury, estate home. Well adjusted, and happy children; with all the trappings of success. But I was secretly dying inside. My marriage was miserable, and my wife was going to take a week's vacation (away from me --) on the day of my first call with Bob."
Bob spoke to me in language that resonated. He partnered with me in such as way that he and I became a cohesive team,
grounded in extreme clarity, with core values of alpha-male extreme-ownership and accountability.Eight weeks later, my marriage and my life had completely turned around. I got the sweetest text from the love of my life, thanking me for 'being the man' and leading our marriage back to intimacy. I'd carefully checked out other coaches and just didn't get the same level of caring and the ability to trust that I got with Bob.
I'm so happy that God led me to Bob. Did I have a few screw-ups along the way? Of course, but now I've learned how when those rare occasions happen... how to leverage them so
they actually make us stronger in our marriage.
THANK YOU BOB FOR MY NEW LIFE!!!"
"When Bob came into my life I was miserable. My wife wasn't speaking to me -- hadn't said more than one word answers and grunts for months. I felt completely powerless to make any positive change. I knew that a hugely costly divorce (in terms of destruction of wealth through a nasty divorce, as well as broken hearts for me, my wife, and my three little girls was imminent)."
Even if my marriage was dead and beyond resurrection I knew that I had failed miserably as a husband, and as a fairly young man I didn't want to repeat my mistakes... I wanted more CERTAINTY that I would eventually be happy -- EITHER WAY.
My journey was no walk in the park. She was so angry... so shut down... and had such an agenda to split/separate/divorce. It was the epic struggle in my life. IT TOOK A MONTH just to get her to respond to texts, or even look up as we passed in the kitchen. But after that, things improved quickly, and within 8-12 weeks all talk of separation had evaporated and talk of 'finding a path forward together' suddenly appeared. IT IS NOW SIX MONTHS LATER AND WE JUST GOT BACK FROM A MONTH-LONG 2ND-HONEYMOON IN HAWAII... A DREAM TRIP FOR HER. WE'RE BETTER THAN EVER, AND GETTING BETTER EVERY DAY! But looking back even in that first difficult month, I noticed a shift soon after working with Bob. Slow and steady progress of ice melting.
How did that happen?
Bob gave me two road-maps: one for HOW TO BE AN ELITE HUSBAND, and the other for HOW TO BECOME THE MAN WHO IS CAPABLE OF BECOMING AN ELITE HUSBAND. I'd say the most valuable thing Bob gave me was the ability to see past my blindspots. I thought I WAS being the man. And I had no idea how I was actually showing up for my wife -- from her perspective.
WOW!
You want talk about finding the motivation for change? When you see yourself clearly THROUGH YOUR WIFE'S EYES...
Well, let's just say that business success is not a get-out-of-FULLY-being-a-husband FREE card.
Thank you, Bob, for clarity on what the REAL issues were, clarity on what WAS POSSIBLE (that I have now both ACHIEVED and EXCEEDED), and clarity on the step-by-step process that led me there.
P.S. I'm a better business partner as well. I've just recommended the other two partners join your program and offered to pay for it myself."
"I know exactly where it all went wrong. My wife hated my business, and wanted me to sell it. I responded by choosing my business over my wife. I'm not proud of it, but I own that. She had moved into the guest bedroom and pretty much locked herself in 24x7. I was about as unhappy as I'd ever been."
Bob's strategy is to build on success strategies I already knew...and to leverage the skills and mindset I already had... which would save precious time because I knew the clock was ticking...
I realized that I'd been trying exactly that, but that I HAD NO IDEA how to apply those strategies and mindset principles TO MY MARRIAGE.
The result is that leveraging my existing skills PRIOR TO WORKING WITH BOB was making things WORSE. But Bob told me he could help me to tailor and modify and adjust those skills to HELP MY WIFE TO FEEL LOVED, AND CHERISHED... TO REBUILD TRUST... AND TO RE-KINDLE INTIMACY.
I was in! And in just six short weeks, I heard the words I'd waited 25 years to hear from my wife, "Thank you for being such an AMAZING husband. I'm so very happy."
SHE MOVED BACK INTO THE MASTER BEDROOM WITH ME, AND NOW WE SPEND MUCH OF OUR FREE TIME THERE!
And while I'm thrilled that things are better, I'm so happy for my wife. To see her come out from the shell she built to protect herself from me, and open back up into the warm, kind, loving woman I married all those years ago -- well let's just say it motivates me to continue the journey... to keep doing the work...and to never let things backslide.
My biggest takeaway... It's like Bob says... "It's not information... it's transformation. You've actually got to become the man capable of delivering TRUE LOVE to your wife. That can't be faked, and there's no shortcut. It's hard work, and the work never ends. But one day, you wake up and she's happy."
What I didn't know was that building and maintaining a successful business gave me a HUGE head start. All I needed was, like Bob says, "the right map, and the knowledge of how to use it."
Thank you, Bob. Best money I ever spent!"
"I knew I was in trouble when the slightest disagreement turned into a contest of wills -- and became a rip-roaring fight. That look on her face... like she hated me... and was going to leave me the first chance she got. I've been in construction my whole life, and I've been in some scrapes with some big dudes... but those were nothing like the fight-of-flight feelings those fights with my wife -- those burned in my heart and my stomach. I had to make it stop."
From the moment we got on the phone, Bob let me know he was there as my advocate. He said let's take a walk into the future with it's only three possible outcomes...
DOOR #1: I walk away. We talked about the pain that would cause...for my kids...that one kicked me in the gut, for my wife...and because I still loved her...that was hard to face:
FOR MY BUSINESS IN WHICH SHE WOULD BECOME A 50% SILENT PARTNER
OR WORSE FORCE ME TO SELL IT.
HOW COULD I CONTINUE TO GIVE MY KIDS THE LIFESTYLE THEY WERE USED TO IF HAVE OF MY LIFE'S WORK WENT DOWN THE DRAIN? AND WHO WOULD I BE WITHOUT MY WIFE, KIDS, AND BUSINESS?
DOOR #2: I continue to martyr myself so none of the bad stuff above happens.
NO WAY that was going to happen. I'd reached a point where it was either divorce or happiness, but no more limbo or middle of the road for me.
DOOR #3: What if I could fix it?
Was that even possible at that point?
Could we both put all of the hurt and broken trust behind us?
Could we still find happiness together?
What would it look like if we did?
THAT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT PHONE CALL OF MY LIFE.
I JUMPED IN WITH BOTH FEET.
Was it easy? No.
Did she stop blasting me over the smallest thing immediately? No.
Was she worth the wait? YES!
I plugged in and started doing the work. I had some huge concerns about how I would find time to run my company, be a husband and a father, do the work, and have any time left for sleep.
But Bob has made a career out of working with men like me. His time management tools, his ability to help me focus... get clear on 'first things first and second things never' ensured I got everything done that needed to be done, and I was able to put away all of the non-urgent, non-important BS.
My biggest surprise about my coaching experience? Turns out Bob is a good a business coach as he is a marriage coach. What I learned from bob TRIPLED the size of my business, got my business culture under control, and now I spend my time playing with, laughing, and loving my wife and kids -- while my leadership team keeps my business healthy and growing!"
"Despite my seniority, I was still away from home some nights. I was pretty sure she was engaged in an emotional affair, and worried sick it was going to escalate. I'm not proud to admit that my reaction was needy, and unattractive. It's just that we had built a great life, and I was terrified our life together was about 'auger in and leave a smoking hole' - to borrow some pilot slang."
Bob doesn't waste time on psycho-babble. He told me on our first call that my autopilot was broken and I'm letting the airplane fly me to the crash site.
He also told me that I had not done a great job of hand-flying and if somebody didn't take command of the airplane (marriage) we'd be going down.
This resonated, especially when Bob told me that in order to fix my marriage... BOTH the pilot (the conscious version of me as a HUSBAND) AND the autopilot (my subconscious HUSBAND behaviors) needed a serious upgrade: SO I WOULD BE CAPABLE OF GIVING MY WIFE A CONSISTENTLY GOOD FLIGHT (experience in our marriage).
And so began our journeys together. I say journeys (plural) because Bob's method is to model the HERO'S JOURNEY-- which is actually TWO journeys:
The INNER journey, which is going to work on the 'autopilot' or 'who I am as a man' or 'how I show up without even realizing it'...and...
The OUTER Journey which Bob described as control inputs. In other words, if I want my airplane to climb, I pull back on the stick (control input) and monitor the result...If I don't get the desired result, I adjust the amount of control input. BANG. What were my control inputs regarding making positive change in my marriage?I had NONE.None that worked anyway. MyOUTERJourney was about learning control inputs that WORKED, and how toKNOW if they were working and how to ADJUST if they were not!
THE RESULT? Within 2 weeks, the emotional affair was admitted to, ended, all contact with that guy was severed, and I had complete transparency into all of her electronic devices...but that's not the MOST AMAZING PART OF THIS STORY. The most amazing part of the story is that she was happy to do all of that.
Turns out she really didn't want to be unfaithful. She really did love me... she was just starved for something I had no idea how to give her (and which I had no idea she needed) until Bob took me through how to do it step-by-step.
THIS IS FULLY THE DEFINITION OF A WIN-WIN. SHE WINS! THE MARRIAGE WINS! THE KIDS WIN! AND THE LIFESTYLE WE BUILT WINS! AND I WIN! I GET TO NOT ONLY KEEP MY FAMILY AND FINANCES INTACT, I GET MY WARM, LOVING, ANGEL BACK... AND THAT'S WAY MORE THAN WORTH THE PRICE OF BOB'S PROGRAM.
I fully and whole-heartedly recommend the program for any man who wants to 'straighten up and fly right' in his marriage!
"I knew my marriage was in trouble, and I knew it was getting worse. And the sad thing is, every time I tried to make it better... i just ended up making it worse. And that's why I decided to reach out for professional help."
"Something about Bob's training spoke to me. I knew I was unhappy; and I knew that was causing my wife to feel unhappy. And as hard as it was to admit it, I knew I had not been stepping up as the man in my marriage. And that whole thing Bob said about Releasing Her Rage -- if I could do that, it would be a game changer!We got on the phone, and Bob talked to me like a loving father figure. I mean... he cared. And I was certain of that. He helped me to understand exactly what was happening in my marriage, and helped me chart what he called a path out of my pit and into paradise.
I think what convinced me to work with Bob was that from the beginning, Bob was most concerned with whether I was a fit for his program, and there wasn't any pressure to do anything. I was on the call to learn a strategy, and if that strategy was to work with somebody else, Bob promised to refer me. Wow!
I hoped I was a fit, because from the training it sounded exactly like what I needed. Well, by the end of the call we were both convinced I was a perfect fit, so I signed up and started doing the work. For the first couple of days I was worried that it wouldn't work... but by day 3 I saw definite changes, in me, my wife, and my marriage. And yes, we had some setbacks, but overall, each day started getting better. By six weeks in, we were lovers again, and 3 months after I started the program we renewed our wedding vows!
MY WIFE THANKS YOU, MY GIRLS THANK YOU, AND I THANK YOU! THANK GOD FOR YOU BOB GERACE!"
"No matter what I tried, she just stayed locked up in her bedroom, crying, and texting her emotional boyfriend.
And I tried it all. Yelling. Crying. Begging. Negotiating. Threatening. Nothing worked. Thanks when I clicked on Bob's ad."
"Doing all that stuff and not getting any result ended up making me really angry. And that's when she told me, "I just can't live with such an angry man. And the sad thing is, I wasn't an angry man when we got married -- she MADE me the angry man I was... or so I thought when I jumped on my call with Bob.
"Inside 5 minutes of being on the phone with Bob, I knew he was for real. The questions he asked spoke right to the heart of the issues.
Bottom line: I was getting in my own way. I needed to figure myself out, and become the best version of ME possible. Then I could be stronger for HER.
When I got in Bob's program, I took to the training like a fish to water, and within a week everything had changed.
And it gets better every day. What I'm most grateful for is my two boys. I wanted them to see a great role model for how a man treats his wife, and to grow up to become strong, God loving men. Now, thanks to Bob's program, I get to make sure both of those things happen.
Bob, I can't thank you enough! You changed my life!"
"From the outside looking in, I had the perfect life. A beautiful wife, a luxury, estate home. Well adjusted, and happy children; with all the trappings of success. But I was secretly dying inside. My marriage was miserable, and my wife was going to take a week's vacation (away from me --) on the day of my first call with Bob."
Bob spoke to me in language that resonated. He partnered with me in such as way that he and I became a cohesive team,
grounded in extreme clarity, with core values of alpha-male extreme-ownership and accountability.Eight weeks later, my marriage and my life had completely turned around. I got the sweetest text from the love of my life, thanking me for 'being the man' and leading our marriage back to intimacy. I'd carefully checked out other coaches and just didn't get the same level of caring and the ability to trust that I got with Bob.
I'm so happy that God led me to Bob. Did I have a few screw-ups along the way? Of course, but now I've learned how when those rare occasions happen... how to leverage them so
they actually make us stronger in our marriage.
THANK YOU BOB FOR MY NEW LIFE!!!"
"When Bob came into my life I was miserable. My wife wasn't speaking to me -- hadn't said more than one word answers and grunts for months. I felt completely powerless to make any positive change. I knew that a hugely costly divorce (in terms of destruction of wealth through a nasty divorce, as well as broken hearts for me, my wife, and my three little girls was imminent)."
Even if my marriage was dead and beyond resurrection I knew that I had failed miserably as a husband, and as a fairly young man I didn't want to repeat my mistakes... I wanted more CERTAINTY that I would eventually be happy -- EITHER WAY.
My journey was no walk in the park. She was so angry... so shut down... and had such an agenda to split/separate/divorce. It was the epic struggle in my life. IT TOOK A MONTH just to get her to respond to texts, or even look up as we passed in the kitchen. But after that, things improved quickly, and within 8-12 weeks all talk of separation had evaporated and talk of 'finding a path forward together' suddenly appeared. IT IS NOW SIX MONTHS LATER AND WE JUST GOT BACK FROM A MONTH-LONG 2ND-HONEYMOON IN HAWAII... A DREAM TRIP FOR HER. WE'RE BETTER THAN EVER, AND GETTING BETTER EVERY DAY! But looking back even in that first difficult month, I noticed a shift soon after working with Bob. Slow and steady progress of ice melting.
How did that happen?
Bob gave me two road-maps: one for HOW TO BE AN ELITE HUSBAND, and the other for HOW TO BECOME THE MAN WHO IS CAPABLE OF BECOMING AN ELITE HUSBAND. I'd say the most valuable thing Bob gave me was the ability to see past my blindspots. I thought I WAS being the man. And I had no idea how I was actually showing up for my wife -- from her perspective.
WOW!
You want talk about finding the motivation for change? When you see yourself clearly THROUGH YOUR WIFE'S EYES...
Well, let's just say that business success is not a get-out-of-FULLY-being-a-husband FREE card.
Thank you, Bob, for clarity on what the REAL issues were, clarity on what WAS POSSIBLE (that I have now both ACHIEVED and EXCEEDED), and clarity on the step-by-step process that led me there.
P.S. I'm a better business partner as well. I've just recommended the other two partners join your program and offered to pay for it myself."
"I know exactly where it all went wrong. My wife hated my business, and wanted me to sell it. I responded by choosing my business over my wife. I'm not proud of it, but I own that. She had moved into the guest bedroom and pretty much locked herself in 24x7. I was about as unhappy as I'd ever been."
Bob's strategy is to build on success strategies I already knew...and to leverage the skills and mindset I already had... which would save precious time because I knew the clock was ticking...
I realized that I'd been trying exactly that, but that I HAD NO IDEA how to apply those strategies and mindset principles TO MY MARRIAGE.
The result is that leveraging my existing skills PRIOR TO WORKING WITH BOB was making things WORSE. But Bob told me he could help me to tailor and modify and adjust those skills to HELP MY WIFE TO FEEL LOVED, AND CHERISHED... TO REBUILD TRUST... AND TO RE-KINDLE INTIMACY.
I was in! And in just six short weeks, I heard the words I'd waited 25 years to hear from my wife, "Thank you for being such an AMAZING husband. I'm so very happy."
SHE MOVED BACK INTO THE MASTER BEDROOM WITH ME, AND NOW WE SPEND MUCH OF OUR FREE TIME THERE!
And while I'm thrilled that things are better, I'm so happy for my wife. To see her come out from the shell she built to protect herself from me, and open back up into the warm, kind, loving woman I married all those years ago -- well let's just say it motivates me to continue the journey... to keep doing the work...and to never let things backslide.
My biggest takeaway... It's like Bob says... "It's not information... it's transformation. You've actually got to become the man capable of delivering TRUE LOVE to your wife. That can't be faked, and there's no shortcut. It's hard work, and the work never ends. But one day, you wake up and she's happy."
What I didn't know was that building and maintaining a successful business gave me a HUGE head start. All I needed was, like Bob says, "the right map, and the knowledge of how to use it."
Thank you, Bob. Best money I ever spent!"
"I knew I was in trouble when the slightest disagreement turned into a contest of wills -- and became a rip-roaring fight. That look on her face... like she hated me... and was going to leave me the first chance she got. I've been in construction my whole life, and I've been in some scrapes with some big dudes... but those were nothing like the fight-of-flight feelings those fights with my wife -- those burned in my heart and my stomach. I had to make it stop."
From the moment we got on the phone, Bob let me know he was there as my advocate. He said let's take a walk into the future with it's only three possible outcomes...
DOOR #1: I walk away. We talked about the pain that would cause...for my kids...that one kicked me in the gut, for my wife...and because I still loved her...that was hard to face:
FOR MY BUSINESS IN WHICH SHE WOULD BECOME A 50% SILENT PARTNER
OR WORSE FORCE ME TO SELL IT.
HOW COULD I CONTINUE TO GIVE MY KIDS THE LIFESTYLE THEY WERE USED TO IF HAVE OF MY LIFE'S WORK WENT DOWN THE DRAIN? AND WHO WOULD I BE WITHOUT MY WIFE, KIDS, AND BUSINESS?
DOOR #2: I continue to martyr myself so none of the bad stuff above happens.
NO WAY that was going to happen. I'd reached a point where it was either divorce or happiness, but no more limbo or middle of the road for me.
DOOR #3: What if I could fix it?
Was that even possible at that point?
Could we both put all of the hurt and broken trust behind us?
Could we still find happiness together?
What would it look like if we did?
THAT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT PHONE CALL OF MY LIFE.
I JUMPED IN WITH BOTH FEET.
Was it easy? No.
Did she stop blasting me over the smallest thing immediately? No.
Was she worth the wait? YES!
I plugged in and started doing the work. I had some huge concerns about how I would find time to run my company, be a husband and a father, do the work, and have any time left for sleep.
But Bob has made a career out of working with men like me. His time management tools, his ability to help me focus... get clear on 'first things first and second things never' ensured I got everything done that needed to be done, and I was able to put away all of the non-urgent, non-important BS.
My biggest surprise about my coaching experience? Turns out Bob is a good a business coach as he is a marriage coach. What I learned from bob TRIPLED the size of my business, got my business culture under control, and now I spend my time playing with, laughing, and loving my wife and kids -- while my leadership team keeps my business healthy and growing!"
"Despite my seniority, I was still away from home some nights. I was pretty sure she was engaged in an emotional affair, and worried sick it was going to escalate.
I'm not proud to admit that my reaction was needy, and unattractive. It's just that we had built a great life, and I was terrified our life together was about 'auger in and leave a smoking hole' - to borrow some pilot slang."
Bob doesn't waste time on psycho-babble. He told me on our first call that my autopilot was broken and I'm letting the airplane fly me to the crash site.
He also told me that I had not done a great job of hand-flying and if somebody didn't take command of the airplane (marriage) we'd be going down.
This resonated, especially when Bob told me that in order to fix my marriage... BOTH the pilot (the conscious version of me as a HUSBAND) AND the autopilot (my subconscious HUSBAND behaviors) needed a serious upgrade: SO I WOULD BE CAPABLE OF GIVING MY WIFE A CONSISTENTLY GOOD FLIGHT (experience in our marriage).
And so began our journeys together. I say journeys (plural) because Bob's method is to model the HERO'S JOURNEY-- which is actually TWO journeys:
The INNER journey, which is going to work on the 'autopilot' or 'who I am as a man' or 'how I show up without even realizing it'...and...
The OUTER Journey which Bob described as control inputs. In other words, if I want my airplane to climb, I pull back on the stick (control input) and monitor the result...If I don't get the desired result, I adjust the amount of control input. BANG. What were my control inputs regarding making positive change in my marriage?I had NONE.None that worked anyway. MyOUTERJourney was about learning control inputs that WORKED, and how toKNOW if they were working and how to ADJUST if they were not!
THE RESULT? Within 2 weeks, the emotional affair was admitted to, ended, all contact with that guy was severed, and I had complete transparency into all of her electronic devices...but that's not the MOST AMAZING PART OF THIS STORY. The most amazing part of the story is that she was happy to do all of that.
Turns out she really didn't want to be unfaithful. She really did love me... she was just starved for something I had no idea how to give her (and which I had no idea she needed) until Bob took me through how to do it step-by-step.
THIS IS FULLY THE DEFINITION OF A WIN-WIN. SHE WINS! THE MARRIAGE WINS! THE KIDS WIN! AND THE LIFESTYLE WE BUILT WINS! AND I WIN! I GET TO NOT ONLY KEEP MY FAMILY AND FINANCES INTACT, I GET MY WARM, LOVING, ANGEL BACK... AND THAT'S WAY MORE THAN WORTH THE PRICE OF BOB'S PROGRAM.
I fully and whole-heartedly recommend the program for any man who wants to 'straighten up and fly right' in his marriage!
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